At some point, everyone looking for love is
going to have to deal with rejection both as the person being rejected and the
person doing the rejecting. Some people can be overcome with anger,
embarrassment, or anxiety when faced with rejection, or are so frightened of it
happening again, they avoid dating or starting new relationships. Others find
it so difficult to reject another person, they find themselves caught up in
prolonged, unhealthy relationships.
By staying positive and being honest with
yourself and others, handling rejection can be far less intimidating. The key
is to accept that rejection is an inevitable part of dating but to not spend
too much time worrying about it. It’s never fatal.
Tips for handling rejection when dating and looking for love
§ Don’t take it
personally. If you’re rejected after one or a few dates, the other person is
likely only rejecting you for superficial reasons you have no control over some
people just prefer blondes to brunettes, chatty people to quiet ones or because
they are unable to overcome their own issues, such as a fear of commitment. Be
grateful for early rejections in a relationship as it can spare you much more
pain down the road.
§ Don’t dwell on it, but
learn from the experience. Don’t beat yourself up over any mistakes you think you made. If
it happens repeatedly, though, take some time to reflect on how you relate to
others, and any problems you need to work on. Then let it go. By dealing with
rejection in a healthy way it can increase your strength and resilience.
§ Acknowledge your
feelings. It’s often normal to feel a little hurt, resentful,
disappointed, or even sad when faced with rejection. It's important to
acknowledge your feelings without trying to suppress them. If you practice
mindfulness, you’ll find that staying in touch with your feelings helps you
quickly move on from negative experiences.
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